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It’s ok not to be perfect

22 Aug

I was umming and ahhhing whether to write this on a published post that everyone could see but figured there might be other people that have felt or currently feel the same way.

Since the birth of my baby in fact since being pregnant I have had getting back into exercise on my mind especially my running. I didn’t think that having a baby would be a big deal and I figured shifting the weight and getting back into it all would be simple. I was going to be super mum!  

To an extent the first bit was easy enough – getting back into exercise and losing the first bit of weight – but I didn’t realise it would be so hard to get back to where I was before or the sheer energy drain that a new born baby can be and so this week I have been feeling a bit down and eating rubbish food and then feeling even more miserable.

I went for a run on the treadmill at the gym earlier this week, I was just cooling down and one of my friends arrived and hopped onto the treadmill next to me and we chatted as I cooled off. I said to her -‘ how come it’s so hard!. It all just feels so hard.’ I was running at 9.5km on the treadmill whereas before being pregnant i could get up to 15km on a good day.

She responded by reminding me that I had just had a baby and had only been back into exercise for 4 weeks. I kind of nodded but I still had this overwhelming desire to be better, to be perfect and get back to where I was. It was only when in Harvey Norman yesterday paying for my purchase with baby M that the penny dropped.

The lady at the check out desk said to me ‘It’s hard isn’t it!’ – I looked up at her – and she said to me ‘You are doing an excellent job – just remember that – but it takes time.’its ok not to be perfect

I almost cried there and then but reflected on the way home that she was right. I have been trying so hard to be a good mum and wanted people to see that I am a good mum but I have been punishing myself for not losing weight quick enough, not getting back into exercise quick enough and not being able to do as much as i could before – but I have a baby now – a beautiful wonderful baby and that is enough.

I think sometimes we spend so much time worrying about what people think about us and trying to be what we think people want/expect us to be that we end up often doing more harm than good. This weeks experiences have really put me in my place and helped me to realise that it’s ok not to be perfect as long as we accept who we are and that that’s enough then that’s all good. It’s hard not to worry about what people think but it is a real downward spiral if we have that on our minds all the time. It doesn’t help when we are constantly bombarded with images from the media with celebrities that appear to be perfect. It’s only later we often read about their melt down. I get tired of seeing people that had bounced back after having their baby within weeks plastered all over the latest magazines. Another good friend of mine reminded me that it takes 9 months to put that weight on – allow at least that to lose it again. 

I want to encourage anyone else feeling the same way I have that you are a beautiful person inside and out and if the people around you can’t see that then you are with the wrong people. Keep doing what you’re doing – you’re doing a great job 🙂 


One step forward – two steps backward….. getting back into running

12 Aug

Hope you are having a good week of training! It’s been beautiful here in Brisbane with gorgeous blue skies everyday. I’ve been taking full advantage getting out and about with baby M. I’ve slowly been getting back into my running which has been great, baby is 15 weeks now so I feel like I’m good to go and managed 5k yesterday walking/running at a very super slow time of 40 mins!! but I’m getting there.

I have a new hindrance now it seems. From lifting baby M in and out of his capsule, in and out of the car and his stroller I have damaged my wrists to the point it hurts all the time when I lift him now 😦  My back is also hurting from lifting him the wrong way so I went to see a physio and she said no strenuous exercise, no weights, no nothing! I said to her in a (Im sure) whining voice – so “no running?” and she said yes for one week….

The physio told me to sleep in a wrist brace (see inset) and I actually woke up in the middle of the night in agony so removed it. Called them the next day and they told me I have to see an Occupational Therapist…wrist

I was a little bit naughty yesterday as I did run but I made a pact with myself if I had any pain (which I didn’t) that i would stop. So it’s back to the physio and an occupational therapist on Friday to see what can be done and in the meantime resting my wrists the best I can and doing my physio exercises! I never realised having babies was so hazardous!

I’m loving being back at the gym and running though. I remember when I was pregnant I kept saying to myself it wouldn’t be long and I would be back running in no time and here I am – yay. I bought new trainers (Kayano 19s on special) and I’m set to go.

Anyway have a great week and happy running !

Baby Max has arrived

21 May

Sorry – long time no talk! I haven’t written anything in a week or three as our baby finally arrived!

He arrived!!

max hospital

Max was born at the end of April – it was a fairly quick labour and nice and pain free thanks to the epidural I made sure I had! I read lots of articles about having a fully natural labour and decided not being great with pain I would reduce the stress on me and Max and go for pain relief. Very thankful I did – although the administering of the epidural was not the best!

I have to say the pregnancy was a shocker but worth every last ounce of nausea, reflux, back pain etc for what I got in return. My friend who is also my doctor said to me that the pregnancy was worse than the birth as the birth is like a marathon to get through in one day whereas the pregnancy is nine months of discomfort! She was so right!  My stomach muscles certainly got some use in the labour and I just imagined I was in an exercise class and pushed as hard as I could and he was out within 12 pushes :-)My little boy is the most precious thing I have ever seen and we are delighted as parents that everything went ok.

I spent a few emotional days looking at Max in amazement that he was finally born and felt so great – no more sickness yay! We’ve spent the last 2 weeks sleeping when we can, feeding him and helping him get to sleep – it’s certainly been a challenge as I am sure any mums reading will know 🙂

Gearing back up to train!

Max buggy

First day out with max in the babyjogger – it was so good just to get out and start to feel ready to train again.

Fitness wise I am raring to go. Thanks to a natural birth I have pretty much recovered, belly has gone down – still a little way to go but I was amazed at how quickly belly disappeared and I am back into my first trimester maternity clothes and not worrying too much right now about getting all the weight off. I have an appointment with my obstetricians physio then hoping I will be signed off to start to slowly get back into training! I’m a bit nervous as I haven’t run in a very long time but I am looking forward to putting my trainers on and giving it a go. Going to join a gym again and I recently took Max out for a little walk in the stroller which was great. He seemed to like it and I loved just getting out and about and feeling like I was ready to start training again 🙂

Rave products helping me at the moment 

I have found some products invaluable to me at this time helping me with my postpartum recovery and just having a baby in general. Here are my top 5.

1. SRC Recovery Shorts 

These are amazing and I will review in more detail in a separate post. They are great for both natural birth recovery or C section recovery and I am convinced they have helped everything to go down a bit more i.e. my tummy and also for my ability to walk easier and not be in discomfort.

2. Ultimate Sleep Breast Feeding Pillow 

Again I will write a separate post on this but having already tried two other pillows this pillow which is endorsed by the Australian Breastfeeding Association is so comfortable to use and also great to just stick in the washing machine when it gets dirty – very handy!

3. Lansinoh – my saviour! Nipple cream (sorry to any men reading this! might be too much information!)

Lansinoh has been awesome in keeping me sane and helping me to recover from the toe curling start of breast feeding when baby decides to bite the hell out of those sensitive parts of the breast!

4. Baby Cam 🙂

My husband installed a baby cam by Max’s bassinet so that when I pop out and he is looking after him I can check my phone and see him sleeping – priceless 🙂 I love being able to check on him at all times!

5. Exercise Ball

My exercise ball has been very helpful for both mobility for me – getting me used to just moving a bit again and also bouncing Max gently when he doesn’t want to sleep 🙂

Anyway I’ll be trying to write more frequently to keep you posted with my journey back to fitness – happy running! Here’s just one more photo of Max from his proud mumma!